A lot of people talk about finding the “right one” for them. I no longer see the fascination. Husbands and wives are forever soul mates, not a couple year get together. Love and lust are not the same.
What are we teaching our children? Everything in this world seems to degrade the opposite sex. We judge the men on what they do and do not do. Then we judge the women off of their body and clothes.
We all say, “No you are not my type” or assume that someone who wants to be friends has a crush on you when they have not indicated it in any fashion. Why can we not be friends instead of letting our childish heart driven attraction get in the way of it?
Some of us make a list of attributes we would like to see in our partner. That is not a problem, please make that list and stick to it. But please do not flaunt it. People do not like to think that you are people shopping.
Do I have a list? Yes, I do. I typically keep it to myself. But for this conversation it seems that I will have to make an exception.
I am going to share a few of the things that are on my list with you so that you have an example. I think girls and guys should always know what they want in a life long partner. Even if the people they meet in life do not “Make the cut”. You can still be friends if you want. Unless it is a toxic relationship. Then you might want to consider different options.
Things I would like to see in my forever partner.
- Devotion ( To God, what they do, family, me, etc.)
- Faith (In anything that matters.)
- Patience (We all need some version of this)
- Integrity ( I will provide a definition)
- Confidence (Not that cocky arrogant kind either)
- Charity ( A Godly love for everyone no matter the person)
- Consistency ( The capability of being the same no matter the situation)
I am not normally for Wikipedia but their definition of integrity is definitely something to be thought about.
“Integrity is the practice of being honest and showing a consistent and uncompromising adherence to strong moral and ethical principles and values. In ethics , integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of ones actions.
Okay, now that you have an example. Think about what you want to see. Pray about it. Do not be shy to ask for what you want. God will give you what you need.
Make your own list. Everyones will be different. The right partner for me, will not be the right one for you. And that is okay. God made us all different for a reason.
Once you have decided what you want to live with for the rest of your life. Stick to it. You wanna know why I am single? Most of it is that I will settle for no less than what my Father has prepared for me. I will wait patiently for it. Even if it never comes. I will have faith in my Father and stand by my beliefs even if it leaves me single. I will still carry out the path my Father has set before me.
May all of Gods children stay strong and wait on him to provide. We shall know when the right one comes. Have faith and take care. Until your partner comes, learn more about yourself. Fulfill the path the Father has set before you. He will bring your partner to you when you are not even looking.
May you all have a blessed day.