There is a saying that was said often when I was a kid, I am not sure if they still say it now but it would not surprise me if they did. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” My Mother was a smart woman and taught me at a very young age that this sentence was probably one of humanities larger lies that they told themselves. It may not look like the words hurt…but they do eventually.
I did not fully realize how much of a lie it was until I was older though. One of those things where we are taught it but never felt it in our hearts and soul. Some of the simplest things that are said hurt. In Proverbs 18:21 it is written “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Yes, both sides eat the fruit thereof. The people that say it, and the people that are spoken to. It comes back to haunt us like the terrible truth.
I have realized that kids and adults are very much the same, we all needed to be built up and not torn down. We need words of encouragement, not of belittling things. In the bible it is also written Luke 6:31 “And as we would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” If you desire it not to be said or done to you then do not I beg of you, do unto another that thing.
I know this is hard, trust me; I completely empathize with you on this. It is for the greater good when we all get a handle on this. My mother used to tell me “If you can’t say something nice do not say anything at all.” Now that I am older I truly believe that those are words to stand and live by to the greatest of our ability.
May God bless you and keep you all well, Amen.