This is something I have struggled with for a very long time. Being satisfied doing nothing at all. Owning just what you need and enjoying the simple things. Being happy with yourself is accepting your personality, characteristics, minor character flaws and everything other crazy thing about ourselves. To do this we have to learn how we tick so that we can work to adjust things we are not very fond of about ourselves.
Example: I struggle keeping a room clean.
Solutions I made for myself:
- Setting a specific time/date to clean
- Donate what I do not need
- Organize (label everything)
- Get rid of any hole you could shove stuff into
You see that there is what I had to do for myself. I am still perfecting it, and that is okay. First thing you should do is prioritize. My list changes regularly or I have one for each different thing.
Example: To Do
- Clean up your space before winter break
- Finish knitting pa’s socks
- Go through closet and donate stuff
- Set up water fountain
Example: Daily Routine
- Monday – Get up @ 6:30am, take dog out and start car @ 7:00am, Leave for work @ 7:15, work from 7:15am-3:15pm, feed dogs @ 4:00pm, dinner @ 6:00pm, etc.
Do you see where I am going with this? If making lists makes your life easier then do it. But remember, to live simply we must also have down time. Down time is when we reflect on ones self. Some people go and do the things they love, others read a book, some people may take evening naps, I enjoy spending time with someone I care about.
Know when to say no. Enough is just that, enough. It took me a long time to know when to say that. Your job is not worth it if your dying of stress. You cannot be there for your family if you work 12 hrs a day. Give what you can of yourself but no more. Your family needs you, your kids need you, your friends need you, and God put you on this earth for a reason. So just relax.
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Mathew 6:25-34
As I get older I find that certain things no longer matter to me or some things seem to be just a solid waste of time. For those of you who know me you will remember in one of my earlier posts I told you that I am a multiple. Well, in being a multiple you tend to spend all of your time with the people that are just like you, or so you think they are just like you. I have spent my whole life living in the same room as one or both of my siblings, letting them pick the decor, what we did during the day, what they thought I looked cute wearing, the list goes on. I was scared to move out of just the bedroom I shared. Scared to find out who I was without them, not who WE are but who I am (without them).
Recently I was convicted by God to move into my own space. I sought guidance on what that looked like. It took awhile to find an answer. I didn’t know if he wanted me to get my own house, an apartment, a trailer for the backyard or what. My mother could tell that I was really struggling with this and she set up some space for me on the pull out couch in our shared art room. I have been living in that room ever sense. Honestly, I am much happier. I have found out things about myself that I had totally forgotten or failed to do. I love listening to my vinyls on my record table. I enjoy reading old english literature. I enjoy typing with my typewriter or writing with my ink pen. I enjoy sitting on my bed and knitting my socks while jazz music is playing and coffee is on the in-table. I like having my dog around, he now sleeps in my room every night.
I have learned to relax and enjoy what is going on around me. To treasure time spent with family. What I do and do not like. These are things we should all take time and learn about ourselves.
“Doing nothing always leads to the best of something.” Pooh Bear
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